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Nora Charles in THE THIN MAN.

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Mother (and Father) Lord from THE PHILADELPHIA STORY. Such common sense, such an amazing ability to realize what really matters and what is just human frailty. If more men and women had such clarity of vision, divorce lawyers would go broke.

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Veronica Lake in *I Married a Witch*

Kim Novak in *Bell, Book, and Candle*

Hedy Lamarr in *Comrade X*

Greta Garbo in *Ninotchka* and *Queen Christina*

Jean Arthur in *The Ex-Mrs. Bradford*

Ingrid Bergman in *Indiscreet*

Bette Davis in *June Bride*

Barbara Stanwyck in *The Lady Eve*

Maureen O'Hara in *The Quiet Man*

Faye Dunaway in *The Thomas Crown Affair*

 

 

Basically, what most attracts me is a woman who doesn't need me -- she has a life of her own, she's quite capable of being happy without me (or any man), and the question isn't whether she's my equal but whether I'm hers -- but she still wants me, is willing to overlook my faults, and can set aside her pride and act a little silly in showing how she feels about me.

 

In the first two movies in my list, the fact that she could blast me to smithereens adds a bit of excitement.

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I like your choices. Another character that comes to mind, in regards to your description of what attracts you to a woman, would be Kitty Foyle...brilliantly portrayed by Ginger Rogers.

 

 

I find what you said, "willing to overlook my faults", interesting as I think too often times in relationships today people have a tendency to look at the other person through rose-colored glasses. They arent willing to accept, and love, the bad along with the good. In my opinion, to love someone is to love who they are( the person they are..as a whole)..not what they can do FOR you, or their appearance..or anything else. "Willing to overlook my faults"....loving you in spite of them.

 

Dawn

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I'll take Laura Denbow, the character played by Rhonda Fleming in Gunfight at the O.K. Corral. She is independent, feisty, and drop-dead gorgeous. That would also mean I would be Wyatt Earp, and that's fine with me as well.

 

Honorable Mention: Linda Darnell as Lolita Quintero in The Mark of Zorro. She is pretty and sweet, but also has a temper ... cool. Then I get to dress up like Zorro.

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> {quote:title=ladyofshalott wrote:}{quote}

> "Willing to overlook my faults"....loving you in spite of them.

 

An important aspect of this, for me, is that they do, in fact, see them, but like you said, love in spite of them.

 

If they're in the 'love is blind' mode, then there's trouble ahead -- something, someday, when you least expect it, is going to make them open their eyes. It's miserable to have a relationship go sour because of some trait you've always had.

 

I realize that, as a man, I'm essentially clueless about most things, but it completely bewilders me to find that something I've done for ten years is suddenly despicable.

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"I realize that, as a man, I'm essentially clueless about most things, but it completely bewilders me to find that something I've done for ten years is suddenly despicable."

 

 

The "something I have done for 10 years suddenly despicable"...I think, a lot of the times, has more to do with the other person's feelings about or insights about themselves, rather than about you. You just happen to be the target who is getting the brunt of feelings and emotions the other person hasn't discovered a way to deal with yet. Like you stated...if you had these habits or traits for 10 years, how could they all of a sudden be sooo terrible and cause such problems..if they haven't up till now?? Doesn't make any sense. Maybe one explanation for this is... often times when two people meet they get so caught up in the romantic aspect that they often look through the prism of their OWN need at one another. So they might ignore certain characteristics they don't particularly care for and make that person( hoping to transform) that person into the ideal individual they want them to be. This is , as you stated disaster waiting to happen, because sooner or later a situation will arise and all this "make believe" will turn into a reality many aren't going to be willing, or able , to face.

 

One of my favorite quotes about love is from from Ginger Rogers .." When two people love each other, they don't look at each other, they look in the same direction."

 

To me, love is not a feeling, it is about commitment( weathering the many storms that are sure to come). Feelings can change, and it is wise to not put much faith in them.

 

Dawn

 

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>I realize that, as a man, I'm essentially clueless about most things, but it completely bewilders me to find that something I've done for ten years is suddenly despicable.

 

It is not "that thing" that is suddenly despicable it is more likely something else that set it all off and that came flooding out. I think that something that had been that big an annoyance to someone else would have been brought up long before "it" would have become the issue.

 

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I like Myrna Loy in "Mr. Blandings." Loving wife, partner, encourager and lovely too. She has a sense of humor and she's no push over.

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Betty Bacall in "To Have and Have Not" or "The Big Sleep". Yeah...half out of her mind, crazy good looking, sexy, dangerous, and untrustworthy.....but ready to completely submit on the drop of a dime.

And all I have to do is whistle!!!!

:-) We all have our fantasies.

How about Eva Marie Saint in "Waterfront"? The lady that knows I'm much better and bigger than I think I am.

Sappy, I know, but there you have it.

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>if you had these habits or traits for 10 years, how could they all of a sudden be sooo terrible and cause such problems..if they haven't up till now?? Doesn't make any sense.

 

Sure it does.

 

They just get bored, and traits that irritated them originally, which they did not mention for a few years, well... they finally begin to mention them.

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Then that person( who is irritated) never TRULY loved the other to begin with. As I stated earlier, to love someone is to take the bad with the good. If these traits irritated this person from the get go, then it should have been discussed and dealt with at that time...not YEARS later.

 

Problem is... some people seem to think the grass is always greener someplace else..or with someone else. As you stated, they become bored and want to look elsewhere so now all of a sudden decide to bring up these annoyances.

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If a Clark Gable type doesn't come by to take her away from me I would love to have and to hold Jean Harlow forever. If she isn't available I will take the "Seven Year Itch" Marilyn Monroe.

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